#TipTuesday : How To Deal With Rejections

January 19, 2016

I’ve consistently maintained a solid, positive attitude on here, especially about my struggles finding a full-time position in a competitive industry.  I definitely have a great support system, where my friends and family constantly encourage me to go after my dreams.  Plus, it doesn’t hurt that I am pretty much stubborn and won’t let anything go until I get what I want.

But, I wouldn’t be honest and real if I didn’t mention the grim side to all of this.  Right now, I am having a tough start into the new year.  I had spent the holidays, submitting job applications where I’ve received rejections left and right.  I even got a rejection email on New Years Eve!  Some carved out a moment of their time to chat with me; some liked me enough to move my application forward for an interview; some decided to take back those interviews; some decided to go forward with a different candidate; and some didn’t want to give me the time of day.

Rejections can leave you feeling discouraged and frustrated, especially the ones where you’re just inches away in closing the deal.  So, having had enough experience in this department check below to see how I respond to these rejections:

  1. Take A Moment To Pause.  One of the things you don’t want to do is to react poorly to a rejection.  Before you respond to the sender, you should definitely take a moment to wash away the anger that is probably flooding your body.  Participate in some breathing exercises, get a workout done, or even continue coloring in one of those adult coloring books.  For me, I would head over to one of my favorite spots in the world — the beach.  It doesn’t necessarily wash my disappointment away, but it sure helps me zone out from the rest of the world.  By clearing my mind, I’d definitely be in the right mindset to respond appropriately to the rejection.
  2. Let It All Out.  It’s also a good idea to find someone who you can vent to.  Typically, I will call my sister and give her a little rant of the situation.  At this moment, I don’t need any comforting, especially when all I’ve been hearing are, “it’s not the right job for you,” “something better will come along,” or “it’s their lost.”  The purpose of venting is to say whatever is on my mind, letting all that I have bottled up out.
  3. Respond Appropriately.  The worst thing you can do besides not responding back to the rejection email is to reply back in a very negative way, which is why I suggested steps 1 and 2.  By taking a moment to pause and letting it all out, you would already have cooled off and cleared your mind to respond appropriately to the rejection.  Politely thank the sender for their time and effort in interviewing you, and for giving you a chance to discuss your background and qualifications.  Always end things on a positive note — you will never know what other opportunities they may have for you in the future!
  4. Ask For Feedback.  When you are responding to the rejection email, make sure to ask for feedback.  It doesn’t hurt to ask why you didn’t get the job.  If anything, it shows the employer that you were serious about pursuing the position, and that you care about growing as a professional.  Also, there criticisms can provide insight to how you can better yourself for future opportunities!
  5. Accept It and Move On.  The most important part about accepting job rejections is to not take them so personally.  Employers are just looking for the best candidate to take on that role so you have no control over the decision-making process.  Once you get that rejection email, it’s very important that you accept it, and continue forward with your job hunt.

I hope my advice helps you in your job search, and if you need any guidance with the job hunt, feel free to check out my previous posts here.  Good luck to us all!

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