Category Archives: LIFESTYLE

#MotivationMonday : Calm Your Tits Down

October 3, 2016

“Lori, why are you so angry ALL the time?!”

There is no denying that anger is one of the most common and familiar emotional responses out there.  We find ourselves feeling angry when we’re in a heated disagreement, when nothing is going our way or when someone doesn’t meet our expectations.  Like most things in life, there will always be a balance between “good” and “bad.”  If anger helps you to “stand-up” for yourself, then anger has served a positive purpose.  But, if anger is used to “hurt” someone, then we can all agree that that’s not a good thing…

For me, it’s my quickness of temper that gets me into trouble.  Because I am so quick-tempered, the people who I care the most usually are the ones that get hurt, whether they are the sole-cause of it or simply just victims of someone else’s instigation.  In order to help me turn this negative energy into something positive, I had decided to take up yoga!

 

Every Saturday, I participate in what yoga-enthusiasts call “traditional yoga.”  Instead of being confined in a studio, I am learning yoga in the grand outdoors.  Not only is it helping me save money on getting a massage (my upper right shoulder kills me), it’s teaching me to have compassion for others, to love myself a bit more and to live in the present moment.  But, most importantly, it’s teaching me to calm my tits down.

What I hope to accomplish by taking yoga is to, instead of simply reacting to situations, I’d like to get into the habit of taking-a-step back and processing them first.  Yoga is a discipline that focuses on controlling one’s breathing, so whenever I find myself feeling impatient or anxious (leads to anger), I begin to practice these breathing exercises – fill yourself with as much air as possible and then exhale it all out.  With more oxygen to the brain, it provides a clearer mind.

Not only does yoga help connect your mind, body and soul, it also gives you a great ass!  So, for those of you who are looking to improve yourself or needs some self-lovin’, checkout Yogalution Movement.  They are donation-based with professional teachers, providing yoga to the community.

Or in this case – Namaste.

#TipTuesday : Dating 101 Pt.1

September 27, 2016

Aside from making a monumental decision career-wise (you can read all about it here), I had also decided to get myself back into the “dating” world.

When I was in a long-term relationship back in college, I was not happy with myself.  I was not happy in terms of who I was as a woman nor was I happy about where I was in life, which is flying by way too fast I might add.  What I desperately needed was to figure my shit out, and that had to be done alone.  So, from my last relationship I have been in pursuit of self-discovery ever since.

The expectations that I had for myself three-years ago have been recently met, meaning that I am entirely happy of who I am today.  For me, it is important that I feel good about myself before anything else, which now leads me to say, “I’m single and ready to mingle!”

So, I’ve started online dating.  People had advised me to have some fun with it because it’s going to suck.  Others have advised me to go in with an “open-mind.”  After going on a few dates this past summer, I think I have a gist of what the dating world is like nowadays.

Here’s what I’ve gathered so far:

  1. There are a LOT of creepers out there.  For any future dates, you know I’ll be googling your ass up.
  2. He has no social media accounts anywhere.  RUN.
  3. Why hasn’t he responded?!  This guy could be busy or he’s probably with another girl (s).
  4. This guy is going out with me, and he’s dating other girls at the same time.  Uh so?  You should date other guys too.
  5. When can I respond to this guy?  Well, don’t do it right away ’cause you be lookin’ too available.
  6. He asked me out like right away.  Girl, he’s trying to get in your pants.
  7. It’s been two weeks, why hasn’t he asked me out yet?  He probably is in a relationship that isn’t going so good right now so he’s using you for some sort of emotional comfort.
  8. When this fool lives 100 miles away, and suggest being “virtual” companions.  Honey, tell him you ain’t about to be his pen pal.
  9. This guy constantly talks about his job, and is looking for someone that, coincidentally, is what you specialize in.  Stating the obvious, this guy wanted to meet you for networking purposes.
  10. Looks like things are heating up after just a few dates, should I sleep with the guy?  Have you heard of the 90-day-rule?

The dating world is pretty much a “game.”  It’s a lot of effort gone wasted, but you’ll definitely learn a little bit about yourself along the way.  If you have any dating stories, feel free to share it below because I would love to read all about it!

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Happy One Year Blogaversary !

August 3, 2016

When I started this blog a year ago, I was going through a quarter-life-crisis as most twenty-something-year-olds do.  During that time, I was consumed with the thought and fear of not finding the right “job.”  Even though I was grateful enough to have some sort of income, I was not content whatsoever with where I was.  So, to distract myself from my “misery,” I had decided to officially launch my own personal website.

Not that I am unfamiliar to the blogging world, I just didn’t have a focus or a sense of direction for all the blogs that I had in the past.  However, with this personal website of mine, it would not only serve as a fashion and lifestyle blog, but be a place where readers can feel less alone, specifically within their professional and social life.

It’s been such an amazing experience so far documenting my life over the past year because now I can go back and reflect on those old feelings with a different mindset.  My goal within the following year is to share more of my personal life such as my entrance into the dating world, more of travel adventures (if time and money permits) and more of my fashion-side.

Before I check-out for the night, I would like to say a big thank you to those of you who have taken the time to visit my blog, and read what I have to say.  For the next year, I’ll do my best to provide you with some ah-mazing content, and hopefully you’ll stick around!

Cheers to my One-Year Blogaversary !

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#FlavorFriday : Would Anyone Care For A Slice?

April 29, 2016

Everyone has a guilty pleasure, and at the moment, my guilty pleasure is cake.  I’ve been having a slice at least once-a-week for the past month now, and since I’ve been binge watching on Cake Boss to the Kids Baking Championship, it just pushed my cake craving even further.  I mean, who dreams about buying a cake?!  Because I’ve been feeling a bit inspired, I’ve decided to make my very first cake EVER.  Check it out below:

(2) Pillsbury White Cake Mix (1 cup of water, 1/3 cup of oil & 3 whole eggs)

  1. Pre-heat the oven to 350 degrees.
  2. Add the cake mix into a large mixing bowl.
  3. Add the 1 cup of water, 1/3 cup of oil and 3 whole eggs.
  4. Mix until everything is blended together, leaving behind any visible air bubbles.
  5. Pour the cake mix into (2) 8 to 9 inched-diameter pans.
  6. Once the oven is heated, carefully place your pans with the cake mix into the oven.
  7. Adjust your timer to 35 to 40 minutes.

Strawberry Sauce Filling (2 cups of chopped strawberries, 1/3 cup of sugar, 1/3 cup of water, 1 tsp vanilla extract & 1 tbsp corn starch)

  1. Pour the chopped strawberries into a saucepan along with the sugar and water.  Keep the saucepan at medium-heat.
  2. In a bowl, mix the corn starch and water until it’s in liquid form.
  3. Once the saucepan comes to a boil, add the bowl of liquid corn starch.
  4. Cook the strawberry sauce for 3 to 4 minutes.
  5. Continue to stir until the sauce thickens into syrup-form.
  6. Remove from heat add the vanilla extract.
  7. Keep it cool and refrigerated.

Butter Cream Frosting (1 cup unsalted, softened butter [2 sticks], 4 cups of sugar, 1 tsp vanilla extract, 1/3 cup of milk)

  1. Mix the soften sticks of butter in a mixing bowl along with the sugar, vanilla extract and milk.
  2. If it’s too thin, add more powdered sugar.  If it’s too thick, add more milk.
  3. Store it in the fridge until it’s ready for use.

Once the cakes are cooled, use a carver to cut-off its top layers so that the cakes will be flat and smooth.  Grab one of the cakes to use as your bottom-layer.  With the butter cream frosting, frost the outer borders of your cake so that it creates a barrier for the strawberry sauce filling.  Now, for the top-layer of your cake, place it over your bottom-layer that is frosted and filled with butter cream and strawberry sauce.  With your frosting spatula, begin frosting the top of your cake.  FYI, the first layer of your frosting will have cake crumbs so don’t freak out when you see how icky it looks.  Add another layer of frosting and begin to smooth it all out.  Because I like the rustic, unfinish look, I did not frost the sides of my cake all-the-way.  Finally, top the cake off with fresh berries (make sure they’ve been dried before placing them on the cake)!

Voilà!

#FridayFunday : Afternoon Tea Anyone?

March 25, 2016

It took me three months to finally deliver my final Christmas gift from 2015!

Last weekend, I took one of my dearest friends for high tea at a chic tea room in Pasadena.  The french decor of the Madeline Garden was enticing, even my friend walked in with a gasp.  We were the only ones in the Grand Room so we took advantage of the opportunity to hold a photoshoot.  For high tea (don’t ask me what the difference is between that and the afternoon tea because I really don’t know), we were served peach bellinis, cranberry scones with cream and jam, ginger yam soup, a pot of rose tea and, finally, the three-tiered stand filled with finger foods!

It was so fun to watch my best friend in awe of every little detail of the experience from the scones to the little tea cups.  This is the reason why I don’t give out “materialistic” things as gifts anymore!  I’d much rather invest my money in an adventure, creating memories that will last a lifetime.

Hope you enjoyed your Christmas present my dear!

Of course I couldn’t leave without a full-body shot!

To check out my review of the Madeline Garden Bistro & Venue, click here.