Last Friday, I discussed J.K. Rowling’s Very Good Lives: The Fringe Benefits of Failure and the Importance of Imagination. One of the statements she made really stuck on me —
“…I was striking an uneasy balance between the ambition I had for myself and what those closest to me expected of me.”
If this sounds familiar, you and I have something in common. Today, I want to talk about this fear of disappointment. To be afraid of disappointing others is a natural fear. It derives from our strive for perfection, and the need for approval from those around us. Ironically, the more we try to control the situation, the worst it gets. So, why not just embrace the disappointments? I mean, the constant stress, anxiety, and worrying will turn out to be a waste of your time. Depending on the situation, of course, the thing you’ve been going crazy about doesn’t even matter.
When you continue to live this way, you’ll find out real quick that you’ll never be able to move forward with your personal and professional life. You’ll discover that you can’t make important decisions because you’re too busy fearing what others may think of you. The worst thing you can do is to not give yourself a chance.
So, remember…don’t put yourself down just so people wouldn’t have a reason to be disappointed in you. You are a lot more than what you think you are!
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