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#TOTD : It’s Time To Face Them

October 14, 2017

There are so many different ways in how people deal with their problems.  Some like to tackle them heads-on; some won’t hesitate to ask for help; and some would just completely avoid it.  Depending on the situation, people can respond to problems in any of these various ways.

For instance, when I found out that one of our vendors at work wasn’t able to deliver on time, my head rang in high alert.  Instead of chocking on the news, I immediately took action by formulating a back-up plan, doing what I got to do to make this deadline.  Even though my heart was racing in sheer panic at the possibility of failing, my immediate reaction was to tackle the problem heads-on because it would be a bigger disappointment if I didn’t at least try to make this work.

Now, have you ever heard of the stereotype that “Asians are really good at math”?  Well, don’t count on me to live up to that.  One of the reasons why I majored in Communication Studies is because I didn’t have to take any math classes.  With that said, I stumbled onto a problem, where I had to calculate the cost of a booklet per page – a task that was beyond my mathematical skills.  After multiplying and dividing numbers that made my head go round, I decided that it was time to ask for help.  Sometimes, two minds are better than one.

No matter where we come from or have gone through, we all have problems that we like to refer to them as our “demons.”  One of the demons that I am, currently, battling are the constant voices in my head saying — you’re doing this wrong…why didn’t you think of that in the first place…you can’t do this.  These voices are constantly telling me that I am a total failure.

For the past couple of months now, it feels as if bricks were being dropped onto my shoulders, pushing me into the ground.  Even though every step I take gets a bit heavier and heavier, that doesn’t mean I haven’t been fighting through all that weight.  To relieve me of these thoughts, I went on a solo hike, took a road trip, bought a new hat and got myself a new hairdo.  Unfortunately, what was perceived as solutions for me in the past apparently are not solutions for me in the present moment…

I’ve realized that my lack of confidence and self-doubt are problems that have always been present, and what I had thought were “solutions” are actually distractions.  Because these distractions can no longer shield me from the bigger issues, I am at the point in my life where it’s time for me to start facing them.   

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#FridayFunday : Strollin’ In My Garden

September 29, 2017

I’d like to say it’s my personal, secret garden but there’s no way that 120 acres of land can be hidden from the world.  Located in Pasadena, the Huntington Library is one of the must-see places whenever you’re in Los Angeles.  The Huntington Library is a host of various botanical plants, libraries, art collections and research centers.

During my visit, I had spent much of my time exploring through the different gardens.  Unable to get through them all (sadly I missed the English-styled garden), my favorites of the day was probably the Japanese and Chinese gardens, which may appear bias since I am of Asian descent.  When you enter these gardens, it’s as if you had literally stepped-into the country without having to fly across the ocean – it felt entirely surreal.  I stood on the steps with the bridge and pond below me, surrounded by all these bonsais – a type of plant I had for the office that I was unable to keep alive.  When I migrated to the Chinese garden, I had placed my bottom on a bench, and began to take in the moment.  As I sat in pure silence, I watched the people around me (not like a creeper, but as an observer).  One of the observations I made is what you would commonly see folks my age or what millennials are famously known for – we like to take pictures more than we like taking in the moment.  A young couple, who were likely around my age, snapped away on their phones without absorbing the beautiful view before them.  Basically, they took their pictures, and simply rushed-off.

My biggest pet peeve is just that!  Of course, take the pictures you need to take, but make sure to actually LOOK at what’s in front of you too.  No matter where I’m at, I always take the time to recenter and draw my upmost attention to the present moment.  My mentality is “when am I ever going to get this again?”

With that said, I definitely enjoyed the hour I took, sitting on a bench under a tree with the Chinese-styled bridge and pond (filled with cat fishes, by the way) in front of me.  It makes me really eager to see what Asia is really like!

Check-out a few pics of my visit below:


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#TravelThursday : Crusin’ Thru

September 7, 2017

During my lengthy July 4th weekend, my siblings and I busted a last minute, mini road trip to Santa Barbara, Solvang and Ojai.  None of us has ever cruised through the central coast before, so we thought why not go where all the oldies go?

Our first stop was Santa Barbara, which is where we had spent the night on this trip.  It is my favorite place out of the towns we’ve visited, and that’s because it was bigger than the rest.  Thus, making me realize that I cannot live in small towns because I feel ridiculously claustrophobic in it.  Acting as tourists, we had explored a Catholic church, museum and the town’s county courthouse.  On the night of our last stay, my siblings and I dined at Santo Mezcal, which the food and drinks was absolutely delicious, by the way!  As we dined out in the patio with the main street in our view, we noticed a young couple (probably in their twenties) walking together.  The male companion was holding a pizza box while the female companion was on her phone, appearing very disconnected from her surrounding.  Within seconds, the boyfriend loses control of the box, and the pizza escapes from within, landing flat onto the ground.  With everyone having witnessed the scene, the crowd in unison goes, “Awww…”  The funniest part, however, was the girlfriend, who stared shockingly at the sad-looking pizza on the ground.  She then looks up at her boyfriend, gives him a glare, and stomps away without him.  I guess, she was hangry…

Just two-hours away was Solvang, a replica of a dutch town.  A bit overwhelmed, the town was a tourist spot, cramped with travelers.  Other than the smell of danish pastries from like every three buildings we came across in, we were drawn towards a sausage joint.  As we we’re chowing down our hot dogs, I noticed a familiar face right across my direction.  Oh no!  It’s the annoying-family-friend-mechanic, who arrogantly speaks so highly of himself and his family, while directly down-shaming you at the same time.  With our heads down and shades on, my siblings and I pretended as if we didn’t see him and his family.  Yeah, we do that…

Last stop, we made our way to Ojai, where I had planned to take my siblings and I on a nature walk at the Meditation Mount.  But, unfortunately, it was closed.  Very disheartening since that was the only thing I had planned for that stop!  Ojai is more of a retreat for the spa and wine lovers, which I was all down for, but we had someone with us that was underaged.

While looking back at this trip, these destinations all seem fitted for the retirees.  Even though this trip was not what I had originally planned for, I had fun, particularly, because I was with my best friends – my siblings.  Literally, at one point, as we walked down one of Santa Barbara’s streets, my siblings and I were linked arm-to-arm (my sister’s doing), and we got a LOT of stares!  Yup, no shame…Even though we fight like little monsters (quite often, I might add), we love each other like we’re huggin’ a teddy bear.

On another note, I have a couple of mini trips to share with you before my BIG trip 😉  So, stay tune!

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Happy Two Years !

August 22, 2017

Lately, life has been all about going from point A to point B.  I’m constantly moving, racing towards a finish line that seems to be unreachable.  A moment to myself has been difficult to come by during the past month or so, but, regardless if I need it or not, I have not had a dull moment.

Even when there’s so much going on right now, we should always make time to celebrate.  This month we’re commemorating the two-year anniversary of this website!  This website has become a recollection of my memories, passions and emotional rides that I tried to communicate in the best of my abilities in hopes that you, as a human being, can somehow relate.

When this space hit its one-year blogaversary, which you can check out here, I had wanted to focus more on what the dating world is like, the places I get to see and throwing in more of my fashionista-side – all of which I had accomplished.  For this upcoming year, I want to continue to detail all the exploration I’m going to do whether it entails me to hop on a plane or hitting the road.  This kind of experiences is what I enjoy writing the most!

Other than the redirection of this blog, you’ll also notice I’ve changed things up a bit (assuming that you’re an avid reader here).  I’ve included a Resume section, which professionalizes this space a bit.  If you have a project you’d need my skill set on, feel free to contact me via email or send me something through my Contact page.

Even though it appears my life is moving at non-stop speed, it doesn’t mean that I wouldn’t want to be involved in something exciting!

Happy Two Years!

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#TravelThursday : Desert Life

June 29, 2017

Not many people would believe that I actually went camping, and the reason for that is because I am the type to overpack my suitcase.  I swear, I’ve been better about that!  Some would have believed me if I said “glamping,” but I like to do things the old-school way.  So, over Memorial Day weekend, I straight-up lived in the grand outdoors, without running water – something that I’ve always wanted to do!

We had stayed in Indian Cove Campground, located at Joshua Tree National Park, a place I’ve made a day-trip out to a few years ago.  It was the last weekend before the heat kicked in, but I was already uncomfortable with what we had that day.  Because of the sun’s gnarly rays, we had squeezed our activities early in the morning.  We had hiked at Indian Cove Trail, which is around the corner in the campsite, but we ended up taking a detour because we’re just badass chicks.  Along the way, I saw a bunch of lizards, birds and jack rabbits, who are the most adorable creatures that I wish I can just take home!  The highlight, however, is having been just a few feet away from rattlesnake sightings.  I know the rattlesnakes are common in the desert, but I never expected to actually spot them!

But, regardless, I still had fun and discovered that I like climbing shit.  Because all there is at Joshua Tree National Park are the giant, huge rocks – it’s like a big jungle gym.  Even though I was a child for brief moment, that doesn’t mean reality didn’t catch-up with us.  My cousin and I did end up going through various topics of female inequality.  One of the topics discussed was about how women are far in debt financially than men.  According to a report from NPR, the reason behind all this is because women are paid less than men.  Moments like these, sharing these common issues, reminds me of how I am completely surrounded by AH-MAZING women in my life.  Ever since I was little, my family has always preached how women can be just as strong as men (or maybe even stronger).

This was a much needed weekend retreat away from tending to peoples’ requests, to disconnect digitally and to refocus my energy.  With the 4th of July weekend coming up, I am entirely enthusiastic to spend another long weekend to recharge my batteries!

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#FridayFunday : Spa Day For The B-Day

June 9, 2017

It’s about that time to play catch-up!

For the past few months, I’ve been pretty busy at work that my social life appears to be non-existent.  I, honestly, do not remember when I last saw any of my friends, which doesn’t really matter because I’m just too tired to do anything anyways!  With my birthday having come around, making time to celebrate another year of my life was the last thing on my mind.  Having already been mentally, physically and emotionally drained from the past months or so of running around, I decided that for my birthday I’d like to do absolutely NOTHING.

Okay, I did do something, but it was somewhat close to being nothing.  All I did was soak in hot baths, smother myself in red clay and lounge by the pool with margaritas all-day.  It was the first time ever that I paid money to be lazy, and all I can say is that it was totally worth it.  My sister and I had spent most of the day at Glen Ivy Hot Springs, located in Corona.  How this place works is that you would pay a general admission fee of $68.00.  The only time you’d be able to pay $58.00 is when it’s your actual birthday, and you’re purchasing a service (i.e. massages, facials, etc).  Such services need to be booked 6-weeks in advance, and they are about $100.00 each for either 50 minutes to an hour.  Honestly, I’d skip the services because you can find something much cheaper around your local area, considering you live in the city, of course.

Although I was only able to relax for just a couple of hours (I can only take so much laziness), I did feel rejuvenated to begin another week of hustling.  Once my schedule opens-up, I would pay money again to do absolutely nothing…

Now, I can discuss about what it feels like to officially enter my mid-twenties, but I’ve already discussed here.  If you’ve rang in the Gemini season with someone or if you’re one yourself, let me know how you celebrated it by leaving a comment below!  Other than that, check out some of my highlights here from my birthday last month:

Yes, that is milk leaking from my breast in the picture…Just kidding!  I had just stepped-out of the pool, so my bathing suit is soaking my dress.

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#WardrobeWednesday : Leather Weather

May 10, 2017

One of my favorite restaurants in Long Beach is Saint & Second, which is located on 2nd Street in Belmont Shores.  Not only is the decor very hip and modern, the food is absolutely divine!  Seriously, all I’m thinking about is the East Coast Oysters I had, which you can check it out here.  Of the dishes that I had at this restaurant, I realized that I have a high preference for anything citrus.  Saint & Second is definitely known for their cocktail drinks, which I also highly recommend getting if you ever stop by.  The masterminds behind the bar knows how to equally balance the ingredients in their drinks that can keep both your taste buds flowing and leave you at a good level.

I can pretty much can create a love note on about Saint & Second, but that’s not what this post is going to be about.  You all would have to experience the place yourself!  What I would like to share with you is an outfit most fitted for the recent California weather or what I’d like to call “Leather Weather.”  Seriously, I’m wearing leather in late spring…Apparently, the gloomy, chilly weather is normal for Southern California in May, as it was reported on NPR just the other day.  Check out how I’ve been dressing for it below:

Outerwear: Zara Biker Style Jacket (similar) | Shoes: Lucky Brand Lakmeh (similar)

Lucky Brand’s ‘Lisza’ Open Toe Bootie featured here were shoes sold at various retailers for $100+ about a year ago.  You know that feeling of regret where you wanted a certain an item that was right in front of you, but decided not to get?  That’s what I went through with these shoes.  Luckily, I stumbled upon Dillards via online and found a pair in my size for just $80!  This was just a month or two ago, and now they are completely sold out.  Not only are these shoes cute (received many compliments for them by the way), they are “somewhat” comfortable.  I say “somewhat” because, for some reason, the area under my toe creates blisters.  The shoes are good enough to walk-in, in terms of lightness and such, but those blisters are not fun…I feel like it’s an issue that can be fixed, so I’ll let you know once I figure that out…But, all-in-all, #noregrets.

If you’re wearing any leather during this time of year, feel free to share it in the comments below!

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#FridayReads : Acceptance At Twenty-Five

April 21, 2017

Over the past year, I have been trying to pin-point this apprehensive fear as my birthday draws nearer.  As I am about to officially reach a quarter-of-my-life, I feel this great deal of pressure from the people around me.  People are asking me questions about where I am headed in my career, when am I going to start dating and when am I going to start investing in my retirement.

This is all just part of being your twenties, and it’s hard not to avoid getting “lost” within your journey in figuring it all out.  Tired of being soaked in this fear of aging, I started to ask myself what makes getting older a great thing?

For the first time ever, I had pitched and submitted an article to Literally, Darling, discussing how I’ve reached my mid-twenties with a sense of acceptance.  In the middle of the night, I had awoken with a sudden urge to spill out all that I had difficulty to explain onto what we’ve replaced paper with today, Word Doc.  Hopefully, some of you can relate to what I am addressing and that it can help provide you insight to what you’re experiencing as well.

Without getting into further detail, check out my published piece here!

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#WardrobeWednesday : Office Attire Pt. 1

April 19, 2017

There was an article that I had read a couple of months ago discussing decision fatigue, where researchers questioned whether or not the time we’ve spent deciding what to wear affects our cognitive functioning.  For instance, Steve Jobs is known for wearing the same pieces of clothing everyday, which plays a factor to why he was so successful.  Instead of wasting time deciding what to wear everyday, he had spent those minutes trying to come-up with the next big thing.

As I was about to make a drastic wardrobe decision, I finally reached the end of the article – it’s all total bullshit.  There are plenty of unsuccessful people who wear the same pieces of clothing everyday, and have gotten nowhere.  How I see it is that when you’re trying to figure-out what to wear for work every morning or the night before, you’re actively and creatively working your brain.  So, instead of wearing the same pant suit everyday, why not try mixing things up a bit?

Inspired by one of my favorite style influencers – previously mentioned here – I had put together something that is clean-cut for the office.  Just like Victoria Beckham, I am all about appearing effortlessly chic.  So, it’s no surprise that the posh star is my work attire inspiration.

Top: Tart Sarah Surplice Shirt (similar) | Bottom: Forever21 Contemporary Woven Trousers (similar) | Shoes: Saks Fifth Avenue Cathy Suede Pumps & Nine West Onosha Slip-On Sneakers (alternative)

I’ve topped-off the outfit with two different types of footwear – heels and sneakers.  I highly recommend the Cathy Suede Pumps from Saks Fifth Avenue because they are super comfortable!  I’ve worn them at the office to the dance floor, and not a single time, did I ever have any problems with them.  The sneakers I have featured in the picture, however, is the total opposite of comfortable.  Over the years, I’ve learned that my feet does not suit well with Nine West, due to the fact that I am always bleeding or suffering from redness after wearing several pair of their shoes.  My sister, on the other hand, has no problem with their products, so I’m assuming it’s because of my wide-feet.  Basically, if you got small and narrow feet, check out the selection at Nine West.

I hope this helps you in determining what you’d be wearing tomorrow!  If you have any work attire that you’re proud of, don’t hesitate to share it in the comments below!

P.S. Even though I may appear to be serious all-the-time at work, it doesn’t mean that I don’t have a goofy side 😉

Images shot by an incoming UCLA undergrad

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#FridayFunday : What’s Poppin’ California?

April 7, 2017

Poppies that is!

Spring has definitely arrived in Southern California with flowers all in full bloom.  There’s no denying that the rain we had from this past winter had something to do with it.  Unlike most years that I remember, spring was like summer – dry and hot.  All we had for the spring season were allergies and withering plants.

To welcome the season, I had visited Antelope Valley California State Poppy Reserve, which is located in Lancaster.  From afar, you can see the hills are alive with such vibrant colors.  One of the colors that kept popping up out of the greenery are these neon-orange poppies, which is the official state flower of California.  It was such a beautiful sight to behold, and, unfortunately, none of the pictures that I had taken captured the essence of it.

If you are wondering where you’d be able to visit these poppies, click here to find a list of places that you can seek out.  Be prepared to get stuck in traffic when making a trip out to these locations on weekends.  Also, apparently, the poppies are only available until the end of the month.

One of the things that I want to note is that I tried VERY, VERY, VERY hard not to crush any of the flowers.  Killing the flowers is not worth the photograph, so I encourage all of you to stay within the dirt path.

Other than that, hope you all are enjoying this wonderful spring we’re having 🙂

If you got the chance to see these poppies, be sure to post a picture of your experience in the comments below!

 

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