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#TOTD : Grateful For 2K16

December 31, 2016

While everyone feels as if they’ve been victimized by 2016, I, however, feel this past year treated me very well.  Considering that I had spent the last two years, stumbling around like a “lost puppy,” 2016 was the year where I had found my footing.  As everyone is ready to say goodbye to it, I am having trouble letting go of what was an amazing year.

One of my greatest accomplishments in 2016 was obtaining a new job.  I didn’t step into the year, looking for my “dream” job, but I was hoping to find a place where I would “fit-in” instantaneously and be able to do something that I’d be passionate about.  When I got myself into the chaotic world of advertising (never a dull moment by the way), I didn’t expect to find a clear path of where I wanted to grow professionally.  So, when people tell me about how much they “hate” their jobs, I simply say this,”A job is a job, and nobody likes to get up for work.  But, if you can find a job that you love, it makes getting up for work a lot easier.”  If you missed out on my previous post about my new role in advertising, you can check it out here.

Even though this time of year is when we all self-reflect, it is good to focus on the future because 2016 will just be of the past, starting tonight (if you’re in Pacific Coast Time).  2017 will bring about new opportunities, adventures and experiences so we should all step into the new year with excitement and an open-mind.  As I’ve mentioned in my previous posts here, I do not partake on making a list of resolutions because, let’s be real, I can never be that avid gym goer.  Honestly, I tried it out and cancelled my membership for 2017…

For 2017, I want to step into it with a different mindset, where I’d focus my attention on the following:

  • Believing in myself.  Even though I may act as if I have all my shit together, deep down I am actually shitting myself.  While others are able to see my value and self-worth, I, however, cannot.  This is a never-ending internal struggle for a lot of us, and something that comes with being a human being.
  • Taking more risks.  As Richard Branson once said,”The brave may not live forever but the cautious do not live at all.”  Over the past few years, I’ve been living my life cautiously, fearful of the “what ifs.”  By taking more chances and risks, I’d be able to learn more of what I am capable of, and that’s also accepting the mistakes that I make along the way.
  • Focusing on my health.  I wish this wasn’t true, but I am not getting any younger nor am I invincible.  This past doctor visit made me realize that (don’t worry, it’s nothing drastic), and now I have to start taking care of my body.  That means, no more hot cheetos before dinner…
  • Managing my money.  Not like I have any anyways, but it’s good to start learning how to financially manage my income and savings.  The thought of wanting to own a home, building a family and planning for retirement has been a discussion that I’ve been dwelling on, especially since time is going by so fast.
  • Traveling a lot more.  In 2016, I had focused all of my energy into my professional life.  With the upcoming year, I hope to find myself on a plane, traveling abroad.  Traveling is so important because then you become more cultured and knowledgeable about the world outside of what you’ve always known.

As we begin to countdown for the new year, I want to say thank you to everyone who has got me to where I am thus far.  2016 is the year that I feel most grateful for, just because it had given me much more than what I had expected.  I now know from here, it can only get better so I can’t wait to spend another year with you all (if some higher-power doesn’t decide to shoot me down anytime soon, of course)!

Cheers to you!

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#TOTD : Needing ≠ Wanting

November 6, 2016

As I begin to enter my mid-twenties, I can say that I’ve only been in one real relationship in my life, and I haven’t dated much to be label as an “avid dater.”  For most of my high school and college years, I was in a long-term relationship as I’ve previously mentioned here.  My boyfriend and I at the time ended things on good terms, so there wasn’t really any reason for the breakup besides the fact that I was tired of being referred to as “John’s girlfriend” (using a fake name to respect his privacy).

Since then, I’ve been categorized as the woman who is strong, independent, confident, career-driven and someone who is far capable of taking care of herself.  Unlike most girls who need a man’s validation in order to feel valued, I take pride in knowing that I don’t need a man to be fulfilled (it’s been me, myself and I for the past 4-5 years).

But, over the past few months, I’ve encountered this new sense of emotion that I can’t even understand or begin to describe, which is ironic because I’m usually in tune with them.  However, what I can tell you are the five things that bring them up:

  • I’ve made the mistake of scrolling through my Facebook feed to find a bunch of my former acquaintances announcing their engagements, changing their status’ from in-a-relationship to married and studio images of babies that they have apparently just popped out.  Although I think it is absolutely nuts to have all of that by our mid-twenties, I can’t help but think that I am falling a bit behind.
  • My friends are all in a relationship, so being a second priority on their list is never fun.  But that doesn’t mean that I am not happy for them.  Because at the end of the day, I’d want them to have that special person by their side.  As for me, I just need to know where all my single sistas’ are at!
  • At every family function, there is always someone who is going ask you the inevitable question, “Are you single?”  For every answer give, I always feel the need to explain myself in fear that they would see me as pathetic.
  • My mother consistently reminds me that I am not getting any younger.  Whenever she compares my youthfulness to fresh meat, it cracks me up a little because now I’m actually starting to fear wrinkles, random stretch marks and sagging boobs (not to mention our vaginas).
  • The lowest point of all points — embarrassingly, calling the ex-boyfriend

So, after I had out-of-the-blue dialed my ex, that’s when I immediately went into a panic.  What the hell is wrong with me?!  My best friends, who I love so much, dropped everything that they were doing to dissect my craziness (glad to have entertained them with this as well), and here’s what they came up with:

Lori, maybe it’s because you miss having that companionship?  I mean, you’ve been single for almost five-years, and I get that your mother has been the same way so that’s all you’ve known.  But you’re not 40-years-old, Lori, so stop acting like it.  Don’t be so hard on yourself.  This doesn’t mean that you are weak.  We all know that you don’t need a man, but it’s also okay to want it.

My girls helped me realize that “needing” and “wanting” are NOT synonymous.  It’s actually okay for me to want to be loved and to be taken care of by someone other than my family.  This desire does not diminish my self-respect as an independent woman, and that’s what I’m learning to understand.

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#ThoughtOfTheDay : Feelin’ Like A Child

March 10, 2016

When I was a kid, I was always rushing to grow up.  During my childhood, my cousins were all in their twenties, discussing their careers, dating life and the craziest things that had happened the previous night.  As a ten-year-old, I was attracted to the whole idea of adulthood because of the self-assurance, independence and sense of control that grown-ups exhibited.

Now that I’m in my mid-twenties, I’m practically considered an “adult.”  It’s ironic because I’ve been anticipating this moment for so long, and, yet, I feel far less grown-up than I thought I would be.  In some aspects, I have obtained the freedom that I so admired as a child, but at the same time, am limited as well.  Because with adulthood there are responsibilities and obligations to deal with whereas a child you didn’t have to worry about any of that.  As Nigel Cole once said:

“…I think it’s tougher to be in your 20s because you’re expected to be a grownup and expected to earn your own living and be successful and I think you feel like a kid still.”

You would think that “who-am-I-phase” in your life would just end after your teenage years, but that isn’t necessarily true.  I’ve learned that I will be spending my entire life trying to find the answer to that question as so many wise individuals before me have said.  I thought that by now I would know what I want and have a blue-print of my life, but it’s actually the opposite — I have so many wants’ and have no idea of where I’m headed.

It seems as if we’re all trying to appear put-together when in reality we’re all just making it up as we go.  You know that saying, “fake it till you make it”?  It applies here because no one ever knows what they’re doing as long as they’re doing something and that something is moving forward.  At the end of the day, you can only hope for the best, and trust that everything will be okay.

It’s funny how life works isn’t it?  As a child, you want to be a grown-up but when you’re finally a grown-up, you’d wished you were that 10-year-old self again.  At this moment, I feel like a child stuck inside an adult body.

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#MotivationMonday : Introductions

August 3, 2015

lorianalam.com is an aspiring fashion and lifestyle blog that will deliver personal and professional endeavors to the average twenty-something-year-old.

Each week, I will update you on a variety of topics that will be accompanied by the following #hashtags:

 

#MotivationMonday

#TipTuesday

#WardrobeWednesday

#TravelThursday

#FlavorFriday

 

Overtime, these #hashtags will change just because I like to mix things up a bit!

The reason why I’ve created this blog is because I wanted to document my sense of style, do-it-yourself projects, places I’ve visited and recommend, and the journey in paving my career.  I, especially, wanted to create a place where people can connect, so I highly encourage conversation.

I truly believe we are all an artist — an artist that is painting the canvas that is our life.  It’s no denying that great ideas and innovation come out of people who are open and courageous enough to share who they are.  And that’s what I hope lorianalam.com will do – to inspire you, to encourage you to try new things, and to know that you are never alone!

 

I hope you’ll enjoy your time here as much as I do sharing my experiences with you.

 

If you haven’t checked it out yet, click here to find my bio.

 

XOXO,

– Lori

 Credits: Priscilla Mancilla, Photographer

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