Category Archives: LIFESTYLE

#FridayFunday : Spa Day For The B-Day

June 9, 2017

It’s about that time to play catch-up!

For the past few months, I’ve been pretty busy at work that my social life appears to be non-existent.  I, honestly, do not remember when I last saw any of my friends, which doesn’t really matter because I’m just too tired to do anything anyways!  With my birthday having come around, making time to celebrate another year of my life was the last thing on my mind.  Having already been mentally, physically and emotionally drained from the past months or so of running around, I decided that for my birthday I’d like to do absolutely NOTHING.

Okay, I did do something, but it was somewhat close to being nothing.  All I did was soak in hot baths, smother myself in red clay and lounge by the pool with margaritas all-day.  It was the first time ever that I paid money to be lazy, and all I can say is that it was totally worth it.  My sister and I had spent most of the day at Glen Ivy Hot Springs, located in Corona.  How this place works is that you would pay a general admission fee of $68.00.  The only time you’d be able to pay $58.00 is when it’s your actual birthday, and you’re purchasing a service (i.e. massages, facials, etc).  Such services need to be booked 6-weeks in advance, and they are about $100.00 each for either 50 minutes to an hour.  Honestly, I’d skip the services because you can find something much cheaper around your local area, considering you live in the city, of course.

Although I was only able to relax for just a couple of hours (I can only take so much laziness), I did feel rejuvenated to begin another week of hustling.  Once my schedule opens-up, I would pay money again to do absolutely nothing…

Now, I can discuss about what it feels like to officially enter my mid-twenties, but I’ve already discussed here.  If you’ve rang in the Gemini season with someone or if you’re one yourself, let me know how you celebrated it by leaving a comment below!  Other than that, check out some of my highlights here from my birthday last month:

Yes, that is milk leaking from my breast in the picture…Just kidding!  I had just stepped-out of the pool, so my bathing suit is soaking my dress.

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#FridayReads : Acceptance At Twenty-Five

April 21, 2017

Over the past year, I have been trying to pin-point this apprehensive fear as my birthday draws nearer.  As I am about to officially reach a quarter-of-my-life, I feel this great deal of pressure from the people around me.  People are asking me questions about where I am headed in my career, when am I going to start dating and when am I going to start investing in my retirement.

This is all just part of being your twenties, and it’s hard not to avoid getting “lost” within your journey in figuring it all out.  Tired of being soaked in this fear of aging, I started to ask myself what makes getting older a great thing?

For the first time ever, I had pitched and submitted an article to Literally, Darling, discussing how I’ve reached my mid-twenties with a sense of acceptance.  In the middle of the night, I had awoken with a sudden urge to spill out all that I had difficulty to explain onto what we’ve replaced paper with today, Word Doc.  Hopefully, some of you can relate to what I am addressing and that it can help provide you insight to what you’re experiencing as well.

Without getting into further detail, check out my published piece here!

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#WardrobeWednesday : Office Attire Pt. 1

April 19, 2017

There was an article that I had read a couple of months ago discussing decision fatigue, where researchers questioned whether or not the time we’ve spent deciding what to wear affects our cognitive functioning.  For instance, Steve Jobs is known for wearing the same pieces of clothing everyday, which plays a factor to why he was so successful.  Instead of wasting time deciding what to wear everyday, he had spent those minutes trying to come-up with the next big thing.

As I was about to make a drastic wardrobe decision, I finally reached the end of the article – it’s all total bullshit.  There are plenty of unsuccessful people who wear the same pieces of clothing everyday, and have gotten nowhere.  How I see it is that when you’re trying to figure-out what to wear for work every morning or the night before, you’re actively and creatively working your brain.  So, instead of wearing the same pant suit everyday, why not try mixing things up a bit?

Inspired by one of my favorite style influencers – previously mentioned here – I had put together something that is clean-cut for the office.  Just like Victoria Beckham, I am all about appearing effortlessly chic.  So, it’s no surprise that the posh star is my work attire inspiration.

Top: Tart Sarah Surplice Shirt (similar) | Bottom: Forever21 Contemporary Woven Trousers (similar) | Shoes: Saks Fifth Avenue Cathy Suede Pumps & Nine West Onosha Slip-On Sneakers (alternative)

I’ve topped-off the outfit with two different types of footwear – heels and sneakers.  I highly recommend the Cathy Suede Pumps from Saks Fifth Avenue because they are super comfortable!  I’ve worn them at the office to the dance floor, and not a single time, did I ever have any problems with them.  The sneakers I have featured in the picture, however, is the total opposite of comfortable.  Over the years, I’ve learned that my feet does not suit well with Nine West, due to the fact that I am always bleeding or suffering from redness after wearing several pair of their shoes.  My sister, on the other hand, has no problem with their products, so I’m assuming it’s because of my wide-feet.  Basically, if you got small and narrow feet, check out the selection at Nine West.

I hope this helps you in determining what you’d be wearing tomorrow!  If you have any work attire that you’re proud of, don’t hesitate to share it in the comments below!

P.S. Even though I may appear to be serious all-the-time at work, it doesn’t mean that I don’t have a goofy side 😉

Images shot by an incoming UCLA undergrad

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#FridayFunday : What’s Poppin’ California?

April 7, 2017

Poppies that is!

Spring has definitely arrived in Southern California with flowers all in full bloom.  There’s no denying that the rain we had from this past winter had something to do with it.  Unlike most years that I remember, spring was like summer – dry and hot.  All we had for the spring season were allergies and withering plants.

To welcome the season, I had visited Antelope Valley California State Poppy Reserve, which is located in Lancaster.  From afar, you can see the hills are alive with such vibrant colors.  One of the colors that kept popping up out of the greenery are these neon-orange poppies, which is the official state flower of California.  It was such a beautiful sight to behold, and, unfortunately, none of the pictures that I had taken captured the essence of it.

If you are wondering where you’d be able to visit these poppies, click here to find a list of places that you can seek out.  Be prepared to get stuck in traffic when making a trip out to these locations on weekends.  Also, apparently, the poppies are only available until the end of the month.

One of the things that I want to note is that I tried VERY, VERY, VERY hard not to crush any of the flowers.  Killing the flowers is not worth the photograph, so I encourage all of you to stay within the dirt path.

Other than that, hope you all are enjoying this wonderful spring we’re having 🙂

If you got the chance to see these poppies, be sure to post a picture of your experience in the comments below!

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#TravelThursday : Just 4 Miles

January 19, 2017

As my sister and I made our way up to Mt. Baldy, we had encountered some back-to-back traffic – the same kind of traffic you get at 7am in the morning when you’re heading to DTLA.  Having accumulated almost two hours on the road, my sister and I were working our bladder muscles and our stomachs were beginning to eat itself.

While my sister and I were debating whether or not we should “pop-a-squat” or not, we were hitting our breaking points.  Okay, more me than my sister.  As I’ve mentioned before in a previous post, I have the worst patience.  As the road begins to narrow due to the cars parked alongside the road, my sister and I found ourselves at a standstill.  There was absolutely no way for us to move forward or even turnaround so, in other words, we were stuck.

People started getting out of their cars to see what the fuss was all about, and others tried to squeeze their way up the road.  There were some folks who had just given up, and settled with what snow they had.  Even though the sign says we have only 4 miles till we reach the top of the mountain, I had begun to question the worthiness of all of this — “Should we just stay here?  There’s some snow.”

Passionately, my sister exclaims, “No!  We didn’t make it this far not to reach the top!”  My sister has always been the more optimistic one, and it’s moments like these, where she pushes me to do more than what I believe I am capable of.  So, with two “hangry” women whose bladder was about to burst, we had inched our way through the mountain, and, finally, a sign appeared in bold letterings, “Welcome to Mt. Baldy Ski Lifts.”

This is just one of the many incidents that day, where I had almost deprived my sister and I from witnessing a beautiful sight.  This experience had reminded me to never give up so quickly, and to have a little faith.  As quoted by Nicholas Sparks (not a huge enough fan to even quote his work, but what he shared has some truth in it), “nothing that’s worthwhile is ever easy.” 

If you have the time this weekend and is in the SoCal area, make a stop to the mountains.  It’ll especially be great this weekend as fresh snow is expected to fall!  So, even though you’re just 4 miles away, and stuck in back-to-back traffic, the destination will be worth the trouble.

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#MotivationMonday : As An American

November 14, 2016

Originally, I wasn’t planning on participating in this year’s election.  First of all, I didn’t keep track on any of the candidates’ campaigns so I didn’t want to falsely caste my vote; secondly, this presidential race was a laughable one due to the fact that Trump was actually running; and thirdly, there’s no way in hell that the American people would allow an unqualified candidate become the leader of our nation right?

The days counting down to November 8th freaked me out a bit as I started noticing Trump and Pence’s signs outside of people’s homes.  I think it was the first time that I had realized we are all not on the same page.

As a result of the election, it clearly demonstrated how divided our country is.  Just to be clear, I am in no way patriotic, but that doesn’t mean that I didn’t feel the overwhelming fear that so many anti-Trump supporters have felt that day or continue to feel.  It’s daunting to know that our neighbors, colleagues, friends and/or family had placed an inexperienced candidate, who used “hate” as the basis of his political platform, in the White House.

But, I am not here to go on a rant about that because, at this point, we can only hope that Trump will not burn this nation into the ground.  What I do want to discuss are the people who didn’t have any opinion on the matter.  To me that’s worst than not voting, and not voting is worst than the people who actually voted for Trump.  If you are an educated, privileged citizen of the United States of America, you should care about what is going on around you, and exercise your rights as an American.  As a reminder, “silence is also an answer.”  You have the opportunity to use your voice where others less fortunate than you do not.  You have the power to change lives no matter how big or small.

As an American, I strongly believe that’s what I owe to this country.  People have fought for my rights, so to avoid stomping on their efforts, I try to be politically aware of what’s going on around me (as much as possible) and participate in it as much as I can.

Why do I feel so strongly about this?  After my dad had passed away, my family and I had hit a financial rough patch, where we needed government assistance.  Regardless of the corruption behind the government, which I am not naive and ignorant of, the U.S. government has helped my family and I stay afloat when we most needed it.  Although my family and I no longer accept government assistance, there are still others who do (speaking only to those who actually need it, and not the ones who cheat the system).  Other than welfare, there are other issues that requires your participation, such as healthcare and education.

This election reminded me that I have a greater purpose than just trekking along with whatever is going on in my personal life.  As an educated young woman with a decent job, I know my voice can be heard if I scream loud enough.  So, I am proud to say that I did end up getting my ass to the polls for this year’s election, and submitted my vote for Hillary Clinton.  Even though America is not ready for our first female president just yet, Hillary has left cracks in this ceiling for the next female presidential candidate to shatter.

To all you who are not politically aware of what’s going on around you, I highly encourage you to start.  Because, regardless if it affects you or not (which it does by the way), other people’s lives depend on it.

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#TrendingThursday : Just Like Family, Tattoos Are Permanent

November 3, 2016

There are plenty of negative stereotypes that surround the whole tattoo culture.  People with tattoos are associated with gangs, violence, promiscuity, unprofessionalism and low-social standing.  But, over the past few years, tattoos have evolved into more of a fashion trend.  For example, you’ve got the men inked with a tribal design on their arms while women have an infinity sign tatted on their wrist.  Regardless of what you get, tattoos are slowly becoming more acceptable in the workplace and society.

For me, I see tattoos as a work of art.  My tattoos are all symbols of the occurrences in my life, so I can pretty much give you a story behind each of them.  One of my latest additions is a dragon’s eye.  To you, it just looks like a triangular prism.  In some cultures, it is a symbol of protection or a balance between love, power and wisdom.  For my siblings and I, a dragon’s eye is a tribute to our mother.  The three corners represent my sibs and I, where we connect in the middle to show the overall bond that we have with her.  Since my mother is a dragon under the lunar calendar, we thought this was entirely fitting.

What also makes this tattoo experience so special is that I had gotten it with my siblings!  Well, not ALL of my siblings.  This would have been a very cute moment if my brother had gotten it as well, but, unfortunately, he’s too “pure” for permanently inking his body.  As my mother would always say, “Don’t you dare taint him with that crap” as I shamelessly try to peer pressure him into getting one.

As you can quite figure out, my mother does not approve of tattoos at all.  One of the reasons is because tattoos are permanent, just like how our family will always be “permanently” attached to us no matter what…

Yeah…my mom didn’t buy that argument.  

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#FridayFunday : Welcoming Fall

October 21, 2016

My life has gotten a lot slower and much quieter in the past few days.  There’s a chill in the air that brings about a sense of calm to oneself.  No doubt, fall is one of my favorite seasons – next to the California winters of course.  Now that we’re getting some decent breezes and clusters of clouds forming in the sky, it’s a perfect time to welcome the fall season with a visit to the Cal Poly Pumpkin Patch!

The Cal Poly Pumpkin Patch is open until October 30th (the day before Halloween) from 10am – 6pm on Sundays’ to Wednesdays’ and 10am – 8pm on Thursdays’ to Saturdays’.  There are no admissions or parking fees to enter the pumpkin patch, so you can just make your way to the field along the white fences.  Other attractions include a petting zoo and a corn maze.  There’s also a farmer’s market that sells homemade preserves and naturally grown fruits and vegetables.  If you’re craving a snack, there are various vendors selling toasted almonds, kettle corn and corn dogs (haven’t touched those since my “Hot Dog on a Stick” days).

Lately, my family and I have been dealing with a lot of shit.  It got to the point where we were at each other’s throats, so clearly we needed a break.  By taking a quick raincheck on reality, my family and I had ventured out into the beautiful, perfect day.  Our time spent at the pumpkin patch helped remind me of how blessed I am, and how I should be more grateful for what I already have, which was my family.  Honestly, it’s moments like these that I’m going to remember most.

Check out the highlights below!

Now, you’ve got just 2 weeks to get yourself a pumpkin so be sure to make a stop at the Cal Poly Pumpkin Patch before all the good ones are gone.  But, most importantly, be sure to bring along your family, a romantic partner(s) or even a friend to enjoy the festivities with.  There’s no better way to welcome the fall season than doing it with loved ones!

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#MotivationMonday : Calm Your Tits Down

October 3, 2016

“Lori, why are you so angry ALL the time?!”

There is no denying that anger is one of the most common and familiar emotional responses out there.  We find ourselves feeling angry when we’re in a heated disagreement, when nothing is going our way or when someone doesn’t meet our expectations.  Like most things in life, there will always be a balance between “good” and “bad.”  If anger helps you to “stand-up” for yourself, then anger has served a positive purpose.  But, if anger is used to “hurt” someone, then we can all agree that that’s not a good thing…

For me, it’s my quickness of temper that gets me into trouble.  Because I am so quick-tempered, the people who I care the most usually are the ones that get hurt, whether they are the sole-cause of it or simply just victims of someone else’s instigation.  In order to help me turn this negative energy into something positive, I had decided to take up yoga!

Every Saturday, I participate in what yoga-enthusiasts call “traditional yoga.”  Instead of being confined in a studio, I am learning yoga in the grand outdoors.  Not only is it helping me save money on getting a massage (my upper right shoulder kills me), it’s teaching me to have compassion for others, to love myself a bit more and to live in the present moment.  But, most importantly, it’s teaching me to calm my tits down.

What I hope to accomplish by taking yoga is to, instead of simply reacting to situations, I’d like to get into the habit of taking-a-step back and processing them first.  Yoga is a discipline that focuses on controlling one’s breathing, so whenever I find myself feeling impatient or anxious (leads to anger), I begin to practice these breathing exercises – fill yourself with as much air as possible and then exhale it all out.  With more oxygen to the brain, it provides a clearer mind.

Not only does yoga help connect your mind, body and soul, it also gives you a great ass!  So, for those of you who are looking to improve yourself or needs some self-lovin’, checkout Yogalution Movement.  They are donation-based with professional teachers, providing yoga to the community.

Or in this case – Namaste.

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#TipTuesday : Dating 101 Pt.1

September 27, 2016

Aside from making a monumental decision career-wise (you can read all about it here), I had also decided to get myself back into the “dating” world.

When I was in a long-term relationship back in college, I was not happy with myself.  I was not happy in terms of who I was as a woman nor was I happy about where I was in life, which is flying by way too fast I might add.  What I desperately needed was to figure my shit out, and that had to be done alone.  So, from my last relationship I have been in pursuit of self-discovery ever since.

The expectations that I had for myself three-years ago have been recently met, meaning that I am entirely happy of who I am today.  For me, it is important that I feel good about myself before anything else, which now leads me to say, “I’m single and ready to mingle!”

So, I’ve started online dating.  People had advised me to have some fun with it because it’s going to suck.  Others have advised me to go in with an “open-mind.”  After going on a few dates this past summer, I think I have a gist of what the dating world is like nowadays.

Here’s what I’ve gathered so far:

  1. There are a LOT of creepers out there.  For any future dates, you know I’ll be googling your ass up.
  2. He has no social media accounts anywhere.  RUN.
  3. Why hasn’t he responded?!  This guy could be busy or he’s probably with another girl (s).
  4. This guy is going out with me, and he’s dating other girls at the same time.  Uh so?  You should date other guys too.
  5. When can I respond to this guy?  Well, don’t do it right away ’cause you be lookin’ too available.
  6. He asked me out like right away.  Girl, he’s trying to get in your pants.
  7. It’s been two weeks, why hasn’t he asked me out yet?  He probably is in a relationship that isn’t going so good right now so he’s using you for some sort of emotional comfort.
  8. When this fool lives 100 miles away, and suggest being “virtual” companions.  Honey, tell him you ain’t about to be his pen pal.
  9. This guy constantly talks about his job, and is looking for someone that, coincidentally, is what you specialize in.  Stating the obvious, this guy wanted to meet you for networking purposes.
  10. Looks like things are heating up after just a few dates, should I sleep with the guy?  Have you heard of the 90-day-rule?

The dating world is pretty much a “game.”  It’s a lot of effort gone wasted, but you’ll definitely learn a little bit about yourself along the way.  If you have any dating stories, feel free to share it below because I would love to read all about it!

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